How to Eat Ass: 10 Tips to Giving a Rimjob and Anilingus

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How to Eat Ass: 10 Tips to Giving a Rimjob and Anilingus

Today, we're going to talk about how to eat ass—or perform Anilingus. We'll cover the preparation and execution and offer tips to help you maximize your experience.

Despite anal intercourse being considered a fairly taboo topic until more recently, its normalization has paved the way towards accepting anal sex and butt play as a sexual norm. Eating ass can provide amazing sensations and enhanced orgasms, so for those comfortably moving away from a fairly vanilla sex life, sharing a rim job could be exactly what they're looking for.

However, as with all sex, communication is key to making the most of your experiences, and of course, consent is essential when trying anything new with your partner.

What is an anilingus/rimjob?

Consider anilingus as the twin of cunnilingus but applied to the anus. Both are oral stimulations applied to erogenous zones to deliver sexual pleasure. Licking and tongue probing in and around the anus can be an incredible turn-on for both the giver and the receiving partner.

Rimjob vs. Anilingus

There are plenty of different terms for ass eating: rimming, tossing salad, eating booty, going ass to mouth, yet they all pretty much describe the same thing—orally pleasuring the anus. It includes licking, sucking, and kissing, and any other oral method used to stimulate a sexual response.

The difference between anilingus and rimming (or a rim job) is that anilingus could cover every part of the sexual activity, and rimming suggests working your tongue around the crinkly anus entrance—or the rim—where there's a high concentration of sensitive nerves.

The normalization of anal play

What was once considered a strictly homosexual sex act and taboo amongst hetero couples, anal intercourse (and butt play) has become far more openly accepted as a generalized sexual activity.

All sexualities and genders can enjoy anal play, just as these scientific studies in the journal Plos One and the International Journal of Environmental Research and Public Health revealed:


Data suggest that 40% of women find ‘Anal Surfacing’ pleasurable: sexual touch by a finger, penis, or sex toy on and around the anus. Approximately 35% of women have experienced pleasure using ‘Anal Shallowing’: penetrative touch by a finger, penis, or sex toy just inside the anal opening, no deeper than a fingertip/knuckle.

Finally, 40% of women make other forms of sexual touch more pleasurable using ‘Anal Pairing’: touch on or inside the anus that happens at the same time as other kinds of sexual touch such as vaginal penetration or clitoral touching. These data provide techniques that women can and do use to explore the anus as a pleasurable region for touch—which can enable women to better identify their own preferences, communicate about them and advocate for their sexual pleasure.

Rimming and anal sex are practiced by one-fifth or more of heterosexuals

Rimming and anal sex are practiced by one-fifth or more of heterosexualsWomen were more likely to perform oral sex than men and to have received rimming. Men were more likely to have performed rimming. 

Given the previously taboo nature surrounding anal play, it requires trust between partners taking the plunge into trying something so different from their regular sex life. However, for those who do, there are substantial rewards.

Why should you give it a try?

Diagram of the Reasons To Try Rimjob & Anilingus

It feels good

Easy as that. There are thousands of sensitive nerve endings in and around the anus, with every one of them open to direct stimulation and arousal.

It's a big turn-on

For many, engaging in a sexual taboo or kink is a wild 'forbidden fruit' turn-on. Rimming may start as breaking a taboo with unique ways of delivering illicit pleasure; however, once it's part of your sexual itinerary, the turn-ons will expand with practice and exploration.

According to researcher and health writer Michael Castleman, M.A., it can bring couples closer together. He wrote, in an article for Psychology Today magazine:

...lovemaking draws much of its emotional power from intimacy, lovers' deep acceptance of each other. Analingus is a way for the rimmer to say: "I love all of you. No part of you turns me off." It's also a way for the rimmee to say: "I'm totally yours. No part of me is off limits to you." Such mutual acceptance can be a powerful turn-on. -- Rimming: The Curious Couple's Guide to Oral-Anal Play

It's a popular sexual fantasy

According to this Italian study (in Healthcare Journal) into sexual desire and erotic fantasies (inclusive of all gender identities and sexual orientations), anal play was placed 8th in the 20 most popular items. If anal play is on your or your partner's fantasy bucket list, why not take it for a test drive?

It’s a great foreplay option

The more foreplay we enjoy, the greater the pleasure as we head towards climax. With an additional option that explores a range of different pleasure centers, your sex life can only get better.

It can prolong sex sessions

Enjoying heightened sensation with less genital stimulation, orgasm can be delayed, and sex sessions can last longer.

It can boost the intensity of orgasms

And speaking of orgasms, with the stimulation of all those additional nerve endings, it's regularly claimed that orgasms achieved through or while enjoying anal stimulation are far more intense and powerful.

Ten tips to enjoy and improve your anilingus experience

So now you know what it is and why it's so good, here are our top ten tips for how to eat ass.

1. Hygiene is key

Washing

For most oral contact, washing with warm soapy water is enough to have a nice clean butthole ready for a rim job. Rimming happens on the sensitive areas outside the anus, and even when poking a tongue in, it will rarely make it past the first few centimeters.

While washing, inserting your finger gently into those first few centimeters can bring extra peace of mind.

The anus cleans itself, but for a little added confidence, eating plenty of fiber can help. Diet plays an important part in digestion and bowel activity. If you're not getting enough natural fiber, you may experience stomach upsets, excess gas, and loose bowel movements; fibrous supplements can help with the internal cleaning process.

Douching

Douching is a good option, especially if you plan on having anal sex or inserting sex toys into the anus. It's not a necessity but a matter of personal choice. Knowing they're completely clean, inside and out, can add confidence and peace of mind to the receiving partner.

Douching works by squirting a small amount of water into the anus (with a bulb or enema product), holding it for a moment (around 5 to 15 seconds), and releasing it into the toilet. A word of warning: don't overdo douching—that means not putting too much water in your anus or douching too often.

Your rectum is a delicate body part; interfering with its natural processes can disrupt healthy operation. And don't start your ass eating immediately after douching. Give your body a chance to settle and for any trapped water to work its way out.

Using protection

As with any oral sex, there is a risk involved of sexually transmitted infections through eating ass. Using a dental dam or opened-out condoms over your partner's butt crack provides a barrier, protecting against such sexually transmitted diseases.

If you've got any small cuts, mouth ulcers, or open gums, you should avoid any oral sex, given the high risk of infection.

Even a clean butthole can carry bacteria, so if you're going to be frequently eating ass, both you and your partner should opt for regular testing.

Aftercare

With those tiny bacteria in mind, you should brush your teeth or rinse with mouthwash and clean your mouth and face with anti-bacterial wipes when finished.

No double dipping

To avoid spreading those bacteria to sensitive areas, you should avoid oral sex (penis or vagina) after rimming. If a further oral act is on your itinerary, be sure to have some mouthwash and anti-bacterial wipes to hand to clean your mouth and face before 'double dipping.'

2. Try flavored lube

Eating a clean ass should have no taste other than that of your partner's natural body. However, water-based edible lubes can help first-timers or those squeamish about what it might taste like get past any first-time nerves. With a flavored lube for every palate and a slippery sensation to boot, it can more than add to the experience.

3. As with all the best sexual activity, warm up; don't just dive straight in

To get the most from your ass-eating experience, just like any foreplay, it's crucial to build slowly, turning yourself and your partner on until they can't wait any longer.

As with any erogenous zone, your partner's anus will benefit from a slow build to arouse it and prepare it for maximum pleasure.

If they're not ready or a little apprehensive, they may automatically clench their butt. Slowly kissing and licking around their ass will help them relax. Instead of diving straight in with direct licking, gently tease and tickle their thighs and butt crack until you feel they're ready.

4. Take your time, but don't go on too long

Saliva dries out the skin around your partner's asshole. If you're planning on any anal penetration after eating ass as foreplay, then it's crucial to retain that moisture, even when adding lube to the mix.

As good as rimming feels, the anus can lose sensation and sensitivity after a lengthy session, so move on to another sex act before it loses its potency.

5. Research positions to find your favorite

There are myriad ways to access your partner's anus: doggy style, spread eagle, forward or reverse face sitting, and the only way to find out which one works best for you is to practice.

Giving your partner control through face-sitting positions allows apprehensive first-timers to control the action, and a reverse face sit allows great access for direct contact.

6. Work on your technique; vary the speed, direction, and pressure

So many people dive in and frantically lick their partner's asshole until their jaw locks up or they can't go on any longer. Just like vaginal or penis-based oral sex and kissing, ass-eating is far better when you mix it up and keep it varied.

Try playing with speed and direction, doing figure eights, and anything else that mixes up the motion and sensations.

Start slowly, using a circular motion around the rim where a high concentration of nerve endings are located; make shapes and patterns as you go, poke and prod with a stiff tongue, or lap away with a full and soft tongue to keep things unpredictable. Try playing with speed and direction, doing figure eights, and anything else that mixes up the motion and sensations.

7. Give your tongue a break when it needs it

If you're getting a little tongue-tired, fingers and lube can continue the action while giving your mouth a rest. There are plenty of alternative ways to stimulate the anus; even blowing on it can trigger the nerve endings in your butt.

8. Consider using sex toys

Another way to give your mouth a rest is to bring a sex toy in on the action. Whether you use an anal vibrator, a vibrating butt plug, sex toys designed to fit onto your tongue—or even those designed to work just like a tongue—they won't just give you a break but add even more sensation to your partner's rectum.

9. Rimming and more: adding additional acts to your rim job sessions

Whether you use them to give your mouth a break or to maximize your partner's pleasure, touching, stroking, or masturbating their other body parts, erogenous zones, or sensitive areas equates to 'more is more' in this situation. Try holding hands, butt slapping, or squeezing and stroking anything you can reach will all add to the flavor and intensity of the action.

10. Relax

We mentioned how important a slow build was for helping your partner relax, but we think it deserves its own section.

As excited as you may be, first-time nerves can affect your enjoyment of the experience.

Accepting that things might not go as planned or that slightly embarrassing situations are likely to occur will help you approach your session in a more relaxed frame of mind. Relaxation is essential for the best sex, and without being suitably relaxed, many women can't achieve orgasm.

Summary

We hope that this article helping couples learn how to eat ass will give first-timers added confidence approaching their first experience.

Understanding how good preparation will guide and protect you, communication will keep you on the same page, and exploration and practice will guide you to the best ways to stimulate each other. Adding rim jobs to your sexual repertoire will take you both to new heights, with explosive orgasms, closer intimacy, and happier more fulfilling sexual relationships.

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