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5 Best Sex Positions to Last Longer (With Illustrations and Tips)

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5 Best Sex Positions to Last Longer (With Illustrations and Tips)

There aren't many men who wouldn't prefer to last longer in bed, so today, we're exploring some of the positions we think are the most likely to help you extend your performance.

There are various other ways to help men extend sex and last longer in bed. For anyone suffering from premature ejaculation or those who simply want to have longer, more fulfilling sex, we've created several pages full of great advice, techniques, and tips.

1. Reverse Cowgirl

Reverse Cowgirl Sex Positions to Last Longer

Reverse Cowgirl is our starting point for the many sex positions where the receiving partner goes on top, taking control of the pace and depth of penetration, enhancing their pleasure while reducing sensitivity to the giving partner's penis and extending their journey to orgasm.

If you enjoy doggy style, Reverse Cowgirl is a good alternative, as you get the same great view of your penis entering your partner from behind but without the ability to increase your pace or deepen your thrusts as you become more aroused.

How Reverse Cowgirl can help with premature ejaculation

One of the key practices to extend any sexual experience is to slow things down and limit the speed and friction of thrusting during penetration. The positions where your partner goes on top and takes control prevent you from getting carried away when you feel that urge.

It also means you'll follow your partner's lead and have sex at their pace, giving you both a far better chance of having an orgasm at the same time.

Top tip for longer sex in Reverse Cowgirl: Relinquish control to your partner, relax, and enjoy the experience. Take short foreplay breaks as you switch between Reverse Cowgirl and Cowgirl, to the Lotus, or other positions where your partner rides and grinds your groin. Taking a break between positions also allows your body to reset its arousal levels.

2. Man sitting, Partner on top

Man sitting, Partner on top Sex Positions to Last Longer

Whether it's on a chair, the floor, or on the side of the bed, we're operating on the same partner in control, slower sex, at your partner's pace and arousal level.

How partner-on-top can help with premature ejaculation

With your partner sitting on your lap, facing away from you, you're unlikely to penetrate as deeply as in other positions and, of course, limit your options for faster thrusting and a faster climax.

Also, with your partner controlling the angle of penetration, she can guide your penis toward the connected clitoral nerves just inside the front of the vagina.

Top tip for longer sex in a sitting position: With the same superb access to your partner's body as you'd enjoy in the doggy position, wrapping your arms around your partner, you're perfectly positioned to touch, tweak, and stroke them, adding to the intensity of their experience. To increase your partner's chances of orgasm or to bring them to climax faster, either or both of you can masturbate their genitals, adding further stimulation to the clitoris, which many women find essential to orgasm.

3. Spooning

Spooning Sex Positions to Last Longer

Lying side by side behind your partner, Spooning is a great position for many reasons: it provides intimacy, closeness, masses of access for sensual touching, and a lot of skin contact.

How Spooning can help with premature ejaculation

Considering how sex positions might extend sex, Spooning provides shallower, less stimulative penetration, dictating shorter strokes, and also makes it difficult to up the pace of thrusting without slipping out.

Wrapping yourself around your partner offers another good opportunity to add masturbation to their pleasure.

Top tip for longer sex in the Spooning position: Instead of the more traditional in-and-out thrusting, try grinding against your partner. Wrapping yourself around your partner offers another good opportunity to add masturbation to their pleasure. Why not ask them to guide your hands to where they feel most sensitive and to move your fingers in the ways they're most likely to climax? All of those things will help narrow the gap between your climax times.

4. Missionary

Missionary Sex Positions to Last Longer

With your partner's legs spread wide apart, you'll encounter less friction and stimulation to your penis.

How the Missionary position can help with premature ejaculation

This time, for those with better self-control, Missionary is a great position to slow things down when you feel yourself becoming aroused. You can control the pace and penetration when you feel yourself getting closer to climax.

Missionary is the nearest of all sex positions to the Coital Alignment Technique.

From Missionary, the man slides six or seven inches further up his partner, so instead of the typical in-and-out thrusting, he grinds the base of his shaft against his partner's clitoris. There's less contact and friction to the sensitive penis head, extending his performance, and it adds more pleasurable pressure against her clitoris, again narrowing the gap between their climax times.

Top tip for longer sex during Missionary: If you feel you are approaching climax, the Missionary position offers a great opportunity for non-penetrative sex or 'outercourse.' Sliding out of your partner's vagina will deliver reduced contact to the sensitive penis head, but continuing to push and press the penis shaft directly against the clitoris will continue her journey towards her climax and a better chance that you'll reach orgasm together.

5. Both on their side

Both on the side Sex Positions to Last Longer

Our final suggestion, this time with partners lying on their sides facing each other, also provides shallow penetration and more controlled thrusting but with a high level of intimacy and both partners' bodies as relaxed as they can be.

How laying on your side can help with premature ejaculation

Just like Spooning, side-by-side sex offers shallow penetration, so it shouldn't be as stimulative and sexually overwhelming.

Face-to-face contact keeps you close and connected, providing the intimacy female partners enjoy to help them relax.

Top tip for longer sex laying side by side: It's easy to slip out of your partner when trying to build the pace in this position, so we urge you to take it easy and relax into the experience. This is the perfect position to slow down, amplifying slower movements to recognize the ways they stimulate your bodies—actions that might not be so easy to spot during fast and frantic sex.

Quick tips to last longer in bed

When it comes to lasting longer, sex positions aren't the only way to combat the issue.

When considering how long is long enough and how quick is too quick, this overview of premature ejaculation published by states:

  • Men reach orgasm between 5 to 7 minutes on average.
  • The overall range is less than 1 minute to over half an hour.
  • 4% of men have almost no control over when they orgasm.
  • Many men overestimate the time it takes to ejaculate by a quarter to a half of the actual time (so don't pay too much attention to friends who tend to brag about their performance).

The Urology Care Foundation states:

Premature ejaculation (PE) is when ejaculation happens sooner than a man or his partner would like during sex, within a defined period of time, usually less than 2 to 3 minutes.

1. Communication is key

If you can talk to your partner, getting their support and working together to combat any issues is your best first step to better sex for both of you. Healthy communication will help with performance anxiety, as well as a range of other sexual problems.

2. Use condoms to desensitize the penis

A condom will act as a shield against a lot of the friction that triggers the sensations in your penis, allowing you to have sex for longer.

3. Try desensitizing sprays and creams

Applying desensitizing creams or sprays 20 minutes or so before sex (please read each product's instructions carefully) helps to numb the sensitive nerves in the head of the penis. Make sure to wash the penis before beginning sex, as if there are any traces of the cream or spray still in place, it may reduce the sensitivity of your partner's genitals, which is the last thing you need.

4. Try the pause/squeeze method

The pause/squeeze method works for many men during sex and masturbation. As you near ejaculation, squeeze the tip of the penis for a few seconds until the urge to ejaculate passes. Repeat the process several times to help train your body to control climaxes.

5. Exercise your pelvic muscles

Strengthening your pelvic floor muscles can help control ejaculation and delay orgasm in a natural way. Kegel exercises involve tightening the muscles (as if you're stopping yourself from peeing) for 3 or 4 seconds before releasing them. Try doing three sets of ten squeezes each day.

At the end of the treatment, 33 of the 40 patients gained control of their ejaculatory reflex, with a mean IELT (intravaginal ejaculatory latency time) of 146.2s. A total of 13 out of 33 patients were evaluated at 6 months follow up, and they maintained a significant IELT compared with their initial IELT.

6. Slow down

Slower thrusting and super slow sensual sex can lower the amount of stimulation to your penis and arousal, resulting in a longer performance.

7. Extend foreplay

Spending more time on foreplay allows you to acclimatize to arousal before beginning sex. Concentrating on her pleasure by stimulating her erogenous zones, the clitoris, and the G-spot also allows your partner more time to get turned on, bringing your climax times closer together.

Spending more time on foreplay allows you to acclimatize to arousal before beginning sex

More than half of women felt that spending time to build arousal, having a partner who knows what they like, and emotional intimacy contributed to better orgasms, while 39% felt that clitoral stimulation during intercourse helped some orgasms feel better than others.

8. Practice edging while masturbating

As you would with the stop/squeeze method, stop masturbating when you reach the 'edge' of orgasm and allow the sensation to pass. Repeat the edging method as many times as you can to help train your body to delay your orgasm.

9. Or perhaps yoga is more your thing?

This study, A comparative analysis between yoga and stop start method, showed that men who regularly practiced a particular type of yoga saw better results than those engaging in the stop/start technique of edging.

Remaining relaxed is perhaps one of the most essential preconditions for a harmonious sex life. 

The result obtained thus implies that though both the groups showed
improvement in IELT (intravaginal ejaculatory latency time), yoga had much more beneficial effect in controlling the ejaculation and thus prolonging the IELT. It is well known that the stressed and uneasy mind causes lower ejaculatory threshold resulting in premature ejaculation. Remaining relaxed is perhaps one of the most essential preconditions for a harmonious sex life. Yoga relaxes the mind as well as the body.

10. Consider ED or other medication to combat PE

Some studies have shown that ED medication has a side effect of longer-lasting sex, as do some anti-depressants. Talk to your doctor about medication solutions that could work for you.

Sildenafil is very effective and safe to treat PE, and has much higher efficacy than paroxetine and squeeze technique. One of the most popular types of anti-depressant, selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs), has shown success in treating premature ejaculation, as this study shows:

Emerging clinical evidence indicates chronic and on-demand dosing of SSRIs has a beneficial effect for the treatment of men with PE, at least for paroxetine. On-demand dapoxetine, and SSRI with a short half-life, recently has been shown to significantly increase intravaginal latency time and PE patient-related outcomes in phase 3 clinical trials.

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There are plenty of ways to work on the duration of your sexual performance, whether by desensitizing the penis, communication, medication, or, as today's article outlines, by introducing the sex positions less likely to trigger your orgasm.

By limiting the friction, pressure, pace, and stimulation of the penis, you can lower sensitivity and lengthen your sex sessions.

Use them in conjunction with our handy tips, and it could be just what you need to last longer in bed, ensuring you and your partner get the great sex you both deserve.

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