Sexual stamina refers to the length of time that an individual can engage in sexual activity before reaching climax. Because men generally lose their erection and arousal after they climax, ejaculating early can leave their partner unsatisfied. If this happens frequently, it could be due to a sexual disorder known as premature ejaculation.
When it comes to sex, the phrase “it’s a marathon, not a sprint” holds true. One study found that the average amount of time that sex lasts is around 5.4 minutes. However, another study showed that on average, heterosexual women can take 13.41 minutes to reach orgasm through penetrative sex. This suggests that in some cases, sex might not last long enough for females to orgasm.
If you’re looking to prolong your sexual performance, you’ll be pleased to hear that there are a variety of techniques that can build up your sexual stamina. Doing so can increase your enjoyment of sex as well as satisfy your partner's needs. In this article, we’ll be taking a look at some of the common techniques used to increase sexual stamina.
About Premature Ejaculation
In the context of sexual stamina, it’s important to highlight premature ejaculation (PE), which is a sexual disorder that can affect up to 30% of men. Premature ejaculation is when men are unable to control ejaculation sufficiently for both partners to enjoy sex. PE can lead to a range of difficulties, from being unable to have an active sex life to damaging relationships and self-confidence.
Individuals may struggle to differentiate poor sexual stamina from premature ejaculation. However, the term intravaginal ejaculation latency time (IELT) measures the time between vaginal penetration and intravaginal ejaculation. If an IELT time of under a minute is recorded then an individual is considered to have “definite” premature ejaculation.
Individuals may struggle to differentiate poor sexual stamina from premature ejaculation.
Although premature ejaculation is typically self-diagnosed, it can be medically treated. The exact cause of premature ejaculation is unknown. What we do know is that it can be a result of psychological factors, physical factors, or a combination of both.
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10 Tips to Last Longer in Bed
Edging involves bringing yourself close to climax but withdrawing penile stimulation before the point of orgasm is reached. This allows pleasure to be prolonged and results in an intense orgasm due to the delayed build-up to it. Edging can be done alone, or with a partner and there are a few different edging techniques that we’ve highlighted below:
A conventional technique which involves stimulating the penis until the point of climax is near then stopping. This technique is repeated until a delayed and intense orgasm is released.
Pros and Cons of Start-Stop Technique
|Builds familiarity with the sensations experienced just before climax|
|Allows intense delayed orgasms|
The ballooning technique stimulates the less sensitive parts of the penis such as the base of the shaft and the perineum (skin between the anus and scrotum). An orgasm is not released with this technique.
Pros and Cons of Ballooning Technique
|Promotes sexual stimulation without the need for orgasm||Lack of orgasm requires discipline|
|Helps achieve strong erections||It may take time to learn new stimulation techniques|
Squeezing is when individuals bring themselves close to the point of orgasm before squeezing the tip of the penis to prevent ejaculation. If any pain is felt during this technique individuals should stop immediately.
Pros and Cons of Squeezing Technique
|Shares the benefits of the start-stop technique||May cause pain and discomfort if done without caution.|
Decrease Your Sensitivity
A common cause for early ejaculation is being unable to handle the sensitivity from stimulation. One way to increase sexual stamina is by decreasing the amount of sensitivity experienced during intimacy. This can be achieved by using the following techniques:
The friction experienced by the penis during skin-to-skin contact can lead to intense stimulation. When this sensation can’t be contained it can lead to early ejaculation. Condoms add a layer of latex between the penis and the stimulating surface which reduces friction. As a result, the sensitivity felt by the wearer is reduced. This can help to increase the amount of time it takes for an individual to ejaculate when wearing a condom.
Condoms add a layer of latex between the penis and the stimulating surface which reduces friction. As a result, the sensitivity felt by the wearer is reduced.
Condoms often get a bad reputation for reducing the “feel” experienced during intercourse. However, this can be a benefit for someone who can’t handle too much sensitivity during sex. Condoms vary in thickness and experimenting with a few different options can help you find one that works for you.
Another way to reduce sensitivity is to use a lubricant. Although not as thick as the latex of a condom, a lubricant can also act as a layer between the penis and the stimulating surface to reduce sensitivity. Water-based lubricants are generally the safest option and are least likely to trigger a skin reaction.
The penis can be stimulated without touching its most sensitive parts (a method commonly used in the ballooning technique). By stimulating the less sensitive parts of the penis, individuals can prolong their pleasure and arousal. These parts include the base of the shaft and the perineum. You can introduce your partner to these new techniques and they can be used to increase the time you take to ejaculate during intimacy.
Improve Communication with your partner
Good communication goes hand in hand with good sex. When it comes to early ejaculation for men, talking about it can be the last thing they want to do. As the saying goes “a problem shared is a problem halved” and improving your communication with your partner could make a big difference.
Providing that you trust your partner, talking about sexual stamina issues may help you enjoy sex more and reduce the anxiety associated with it.
Instead of spending time worrying about ejaculating early, you can work together to prevent it from happening. Letting your partner know when you are close to ejaculating will allow them to withdraw stimulation and prolong your sexual pleasure.
Premature ejaculation can cause feelings of shame, guilt, and even mental health conditions. If you feel comfortable communicating your feelings with your partner it could ease the burden of keeping them to yourself.
Work On your ForeplayWhen a male ejaculates their penis returns to a flaccid state and they are no longer sexually aroused. This can leave their partner feeling sexually frustrated, especially if they haven’t climaxed. This is where foreplay can help you out.
Foreplay can be used as a way to give your partner an orgasm without penile penetration.
Foreplay can be used as a way to give your partner an orgasm without penile penetration.Foreplay can be used effectively to prolong sexual intercourse. When preventing early ejaculation during sex, penile stimulation may need to be stopped temporarily. When this happens, foreplay can be used as a tool to continue pleasuring your partner. If early ejaculation does occur, foreplay can be used to help your partner climax and ensure they are left satisfied.
Practice With Sex Toys
For men, penetration is typically only experienced during sex. However, some sex toys allow penetration and give off similar sensations to the ones felt during intercourse. While sex toys aren’t the same as the real thing, there are some very realistic options available. Examples of such sex toys include flesh-lights and sex dolls. By practicing with these toys, when the time comes to have real sex you will be used to the feeling of prolonging your orgasm during penetration.
This is practically as close as you can get to sex without engaging in the real thing and a great way to improve your sexual stamina.
Sex toys such as dolls are designed to imitate sex will a real person. Sex dolls often mimic the body of a real sexual partner, similar in weight and with lifelike sexual organs. You will be able to practice with the feeling of penetration and thrusting just like during regular sex. If you find that you need to withdraw stimulation to prevent early ejaculation, you physically need to pull out of the sex doll, just like real intercourse.
Use Sex Toys During Intercourse
As discussed above, sex toys can help individuals practice and improve sexual stamina whilst alone. However, sex toys can also be used during sex to help prolong the act itself. During sex, you may find that you need to withdraw penile stimulation and momentarily stop intercourse to reduce your sensitivity. This could be a real mood killer for your partner.
If you find that you need to take a break, using sex toys designed to pleasure your partner can be a great way to prolong your orgasm and keep them happy.
If you find that you need to take a break, using sex toys designed to pleasure your partner can be a great way to prolong your orgasm and keep them happy. By using a sex toy such as a dildo or a vibrator, you will be able to mimic the stimulation your penis was providing while allowing your stimulation to reset. When you’re ready to get back to the action, your partner will be as eager as ever thanks to the pleasure provided by the sex toys.
Masturbate a Few Hours Before Sex
Masturbating an hour or two before engaging in sex may reduce the amount of time it takes to ejaculate. By ejaculating a few hours before sexual intercourse you may find that you feel less sensitive when intimate with a partner. Timing the interval between masturbation and sex is critical and this might take some practice. Not leaving enough time between the two could result in difficulty getting an erection.
Try Guided Masturbation
Guided masturbation is the act of masturbating while taking verbal instructions. This can be done alone using audio/video clips, or when taking verbal instructions from a partner. Typically during traditional lone masturbation, mental or visual imagery is used as an arousal aid.
During guided masturbation, a ‘tunnel vision’ approach is adopted where the individual's mind is focused on set instruction, rather than being given the freedom to run wild.
Premature ejaculation can be a result of psychological factors such as stress from work or financial worry. By trying to block out external thoughts and follow set instructions, the amount of time it takes to reach orgasm may be improved.
Slow Down During Sex
You may be able to increase the time it takes to ejaculate by slowing your speed down during sex. As the feeling of an orgasm is nearing, without a drastic change in motion or a break in stimulation, climax is often inevitable. This is especially true for individuals who lack sexual stamina. Being able to identify when you’re nearing orgasm, and slowing down enough to break the rhythm will help to prolong your orgasm. You may also be able to break your rhythm up by adjusting your length of stroke and shift stimulation to less sensitive parts of the penis.
Being able to identify when you’re nearing orgasm, and slowing down enough to break the rhythm will help to prolong your orgasm.
It’s worth noting that changing your speed or stroke style while your partner is nearing their climax may leave them frustrated. If you are both close to orgasm you may be able to prolong your climax until your partner reaches theirs. However, if you can’t hold your orgasm then explaining why you are slowing down will help your partner understand your reason for breaking up the rhythm.
Try Pelvic Floor Exercises (Kegels)
The pelvic floor muscles can affect sexual function and can be used to prevent both premature ejaculation and erectile dysfunction. Pelvic floor exercises also known as Kegels will allow you to strengthen the pubococcygeus. This is the muscle that controls urination and with some practice, you will be able to prevent ejaculation the same way that you do when holding in urine.
Consult Your Doctor About Numbing Medications
Another option for decreasing penile sensitivity is medical treatment. Doctors can provide medication that can numb the penis and come in the form of a cream or tablets. By consulting your doctor you will be able to get an expert opinion on whether numbing medications are suitable for your individual needs.
When to See a DoctorWhen you feel that your sexual stamina is having a negative impact on your life you should see a doctor. Disorders such as premature ejaculation can cause a range of well-being issues. These range from psychological factors such as mental health problems to social difficulties including damaged relationships or withdrawal from seeking out sexual partners.
When you feel that your sexual stamina is having a negative impact on your life you should see a doctor.
Premature is more common than many people realize. A doctor can offer advice and reassurance on the best course of action for your specific case and supply medication if required.
The amount of time you're able to last in bed can have a huge impact on your sex life. For men the longer you last the more time you and your partner have to enjoy. You can try to improve your sexual stamina by using some of the tips in this article such as edging, improving communication, and practicing with sex toys.
The amount of time you're able to last in bed can have a huge impact on your sex life.
Remember, foreplay can be a great tool to bridge the gap while you’re figuring things out. If you're concerned that you suffer from a sexual disorder such as premature ejaculation and it's damaging your quality of life be sure to consult a medical professional.